Use Your Phone to Help You Heal
I'm not going to talk about therapy on your phone which you can do of course. Instead, here are a few things I did that helped me through the healing process. First, I changed my ex's name on my phone so that I didn't have to see his name every time he texted. Please learn from me and don't use a name that you wouldn't want your kids to see. Kids see everything ! And they will tell everyone. (which is why I also know what my name is in his phone and let's just say, anything I used was tame by comparison). The name that worked for me and caused the least anxiety was "Kids' Father". Simple, to the point, and not in any way insulting. I also decided that I needed a new tone for my messages. Since I didn't have anyone complimenting me on a regular basis, I changed my text tone to a male voice that says, "Hey Beautiful, you've got a text message!". Yes, really. One of my friends thought I was hilarious, but I enjoyed hearing...