Getting Through the Holidays
How are you holding up? It was a bit of a struggle for me at the beginning. Putting up the tree was a little depressing and one of my kids pointed out that it was a reminder of the not so great times we had. There were the times their dad put together their toys without them (and played with them), "the crappy gifts dad gave you mom, remember the year he didn't get you anything?"--Yes, yes I do, and other not so great memories. For what it's worth, there is a lot of information out there on how narcissists ruin holidays. Once we realized that we had these little "triggers" and we saw why we were feeling bad, it was easier to face it and make some changes. We've kept a few traditions from when the kids were small and we've slowly been building new traditions. For the tree, we've added fancy new lights that do a light show, you just put the ring on the top of the tree, and they drape down. So easy, and pretty with little effort! We put ne